Have any of you read the piece by Lori Gottlieb titled "Marry Him?" The piece says that despite the fact that we call ourselves feminists we still need a man - otherwise sudden panic and desperation ensues as we age. So basically, instead of searching for Mr. Perfect or even being self-reliant, Ms. Gottlieb suggest we settle for Mr. Good Enough because otherwise our lives will be incomplete come 30 years and over. I have issues with this piece, first because of the obvious implication that our own personal security rests on the fact that we need a man in our lives, but also because of the concept of "settling." What does this mean and what do you think?
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry
Monday, February 25, 2008
Why we should settle?????
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We should not settle.
I completely disagree with the points that Gottlieb makes. Her whole argument is structured in a way that defines women in the wrongest way possible, as needing to be completed by the man. This takes us to the old argument of the woman as the Other (SdB)and therefore for the Other to really exist, (or be happy in this case) she needs to be defined by the Self (the just OK husband).
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